What Are You Avoiding Right Now?
What’s the one thing you’re avoiding right now—the task that lingers in the back of your mind, guilting you with its presence?
Me? It’s what I’m doing at this very moment. Writing this for you. It’s Saturday, December 14th, and this needs to be finished today so it can go out in January—and yet, I’ve procrastinated.
Until I understood my Human Design energy type, I used to shame myself with stories about not being “disciplined enough,” “organized enough,” or just plain “enough.”
Isn’t that where we often land when we struggle?
Yes, I could push harder, be more disciplined, or more committed. But when I reflect honestly, I see that my greatest obstacle has always been putting others’ voices ahead of my own.
Right now, I’m not feeling creative. I’m tired. And tomorrow, I’m leaving for a dream trip to Istanbul. Instead of feeling joy and anticipation, I’ve been avoiding this blog like the plague.
It feels impossible to know what you’ll need to hear in two weeks. How could I possibly anticipate the stress of your holidays, the triumphs or trials you’ll experience, or how you’ll feel when it’s all over?
But maybe the point isn’t about anticipating your future. Maybe it’s about grounding in the present and taking stock of everything that’s brought you here.
The Year That Was
This past year has been heavy for so many of us. I’ve heard stories of loss, heartbreak, and unexpected challenges that tested every ounce of strength people had.
But I’ve also heard stories of resilience, awakening, courage, and creativity.
Maybe what we need right now isn’t another list of goals or resolutions. Maybe what we need is a moment of grace—a chance to reflect not on what we haven’t done, but on everything we have done.
So let’s take a moment to do just that.
Your Life Timeline Exercise
1. Grab a sheet of paper and draw a horizontal line across it. This is your life’s timeline.
2. On the left, mark a starting point: birth, age 10, age 20, or simply the past 10 years.
3. On the right, write the number 82—the average lifespan for women.
Now, map out the significant milestones in your life to date. Leave space for the years yet to come.
What moments stand out? Write them down. Then go deeper:
• What story did you tell yourself about those moments?
• Who were you being in those times?
• What strengths, skills, or gifts did you use to reach those milestones?
Celebrate Your Bravery
It’s tempting to dismiss certain milestones as ordinary. Getting married? Becoming a parent? “Anyone can do that.”
No, they can’t. Not everyone can. These moments required courage, resilience, and love.
Look back at your timeline and ask yourself: What have I created? Who have I become?
Now, write yourself a love letter. Yes, you read that right—a love letter.
Celebrate the bravery it took to get here. Acknowledge the times you showed up for yourself and others. Honor the strength and compassion you’ve carried through every twist and turn.
The Year Ahead
This year will bring moments that take your breath away with joy and others that challenge you to keep breathing.
So, I’ll ask again: What is that one thing you’ve been avoiding?
The habit you can’t seem to break? The way you communicate (or don’t) with someone you love? The feeling of not being seen or heard? Taking care of your health?
You know, that thing—the one you put on your goal list every year, knowing deep down it won’t happen.
Are you ready to finally:
• Believe in yourself enough to tackle it?
• Trust yourself enough to take that first step?
• Love yourself enough to let the words and actions of others go unnoticed or ignored?
• Know yourself enough to follow your inner voice, even when it goes against the crowd?
• Show up fully, without regret, even when you make mistakes?
Are you ready to A.C.T.?
Here’s your invitation:
• Awareness of why you avoid.
• Choice to see your patterns with clarity and compassion.
• Transformation from stories of self-doubt to empowered action.
This program is the culmination of everything I’ve learned and lived—designed for women ready to rewrite any chapter of their lives that isn’t working.
Why does this matter? Because it’s not just about you.
When we heal, we heal the world around us. We cannot give what we don’t have. If your love for yourself is conditional, so will be the love you offer others.
So, I’ll ask again: What will you do with your wild and precious life?
Let’s rewrite your story together.
With love,
Kim